Blue October: Hate Me Meaning
Hate Me Lyrics
If your dreaming are you dreaming of me?
I can't believe you actually picked me.)
(”Hi Justin, this is your mother, and it's 2:33 on Monday afternoon.
I was just calling to see how you were doing.
You...
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Okay the video does make it seem about his mother but in that case why the line "playing movies in my head that make a porno feel like home"? I think the video is an afterthought, the song itself is written for his (ex)girlfriend. The song seems to me to be much more about the sort of love between him and his girlfriend than parental love. The message at the start is just his mother checking that he is ok after what ever has happened between him and his girl.
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Justin tells us at the live shows that this song was written when he was on a cruise. He was standing on the prow of the ship, and started wondering what it would be like to jump off. This inspired him to write a song about someone who does that, but realizes as soon as he hits the water what a bad idea it was and how much he has to live for. The song is written from his point of view while he is there in the water.
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Okay, I'm trying to listen to this song and do the writing so it's a little confusing :p anyway, when he says, "I have to block out thoughts of you, so I don't lose my head," means that he probably didn't appreciate her caring for him, and now he feels guilty for never thanking her. "hate me for all the things I didn't do for you," means that she did everything for him, but he never did anything in return and she died, so he feels really bad. "i'm sober now for three whole months, that's one accomplishment you helped me with," means that they probably had a lot of problems and fights over alcohol, and when she died, it scared him or made him stop drinking. And now we add, "the one thing that always tore us apart is the one thing I won't touch again." I think that means that, again, they had fights over alcohol, and when she died, he stopped drinking. "I want to thank you for holding my head up late at night," means that he had trouble sleeping and "while I was busy waging wars on myself, you were trying to stop the fight," means that he blamed himself for his mother dying. "hate me so you can finally see what’s good for you," means that she should stop worrying about him because it's no use because he's never going to appreciate the things she sacrifices for him. "and like a baby boy I never was a man
until I saw your blue eyes cry and I held your face in my hand," means that he was really baby-ish and immature about different things, and when he saw how much pain he inflicted on his mother, he knew he needed to grow up about everything. And, "and then I fell down yelling “make it go away!”" means that he wants her memory to stop haunting him and, like he says, make them go away. Ans when it says, "and then she whispered “how can you do this to me?”" means that when she was dying, she finally told him how much she did for him and that she was tired of him. But these are just my thoughts, okay? So if those aren't your thoughts on the song, well, we're all entitled to our own opinions, aren't we? -
This song has a personal meaning to me. I know it's about a mother and son, but when I first heard it, all I could think about was my ex-boyfriend. He would always tell me that I was better off without him and that one day he'd disappear and never come back. And i'd just cry and cry and tell him to stop and ask him why did all the self-destructive and hurtful things he did to himself... Including drugs and alcohol. And he would tell me that he wanted me to be happy and he loved me and that was why he couldn't be in my life. So that's what the song means to me.
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I view this as a person who has abused, who is sober, and seeing all of the awful things he has said and done as someone growing up confused about life and who he is. He does this to a person who loved him, probably his mother. He knows that she loves him, unconditionally, and this is a part of what hurts him and his recovery. He is not proud of himself and wonders how she could still love him despite the things he has done to dishonor her. So, he goes on wishing things we're different. Living in the past. Reflecting on what good there was. He wishes that he had been more, but prays for the relationship they shared to never had existed so that neither of them would feel the pain that it's caused, but thankful that those same awful feelings are what made him a man.
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My interpretation.
I believe this song to be a thank you. A thank you given a little too late. This song is a sort of redemption to me, for putting someone through so much pain. Pain is pain and this song is just so visual. This pain that he was put through actually could have helped him to see the light and sober up. Thanks to the mother for the help through hard times, and never giving up on her son. -
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Hate me is a wonderful song because of it at least dual meanings. If you hear the song you think it’s about a guy tormented about a terrible breakup. If you see the video you realize it’s about his mother. It is in fact about his mom. In the video you don’t see any reference to a father you we assume that his mother raised him. Justin had a terrible time growing up with no father figure and became involved in serious drugs. He was in treatment as we know in the message about taking his meds. He sits listening to the voice machine and wonders thru the house and time. He realizes he has put his mom thru hell and he thinks what he has put her thru has killed her“an ounce of peace is all I want for you. Will you never call again?” her death is only in his mind. It is his struggle with drugs and in the end he gets thru it and they are both healthy and happy.
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The phone message at the beginning says "Hi Justin, this is your mother" so this song has nothing to do with another other type of relationship. Secondly, she says in the phone message... "sounded like you were nervous to"; however, she speeds up as she says to and it also sounds identical to "my chemo threapist too" which sounds like a subliminal message because you can cleary hear both. Now it would make the rest of the song make sense if this was true. The mom has cancer, the singer has depression and is an alcoholic. The mom didn't have enough money to pay for her chemo and his meds, so she sacrifaced herself. At the end, you can hear the mom slowly fading away, "hey justin.... Hey justin.... Hey justin..." until it is so soft you can't hear it- he death. It makes sense this way? and it is possible that it wasnt a sublime message at the beginning- but the mom could have some other sickness as well. Any input?
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I personally think that this song is about a break up....he is looking back at what happened and it is still so alive to him. And when he remembers these things, he feels so empty, and he almost blames himself for it. If he blames him self then his ex could then move on and be happy because he was just holding her back. He thinks that if the ex hates him then the ex will finally agree with how things ended up. Speaking from personal experiance and such...to me this song relates that as much as you love the memories and the good times shared, they haunt you. They remind you of what can never be again, even though you wish they would just come back, so if you can carry the blame then the breakup is justified (no pun inteneded). I don't think it relates to his mom in the since that she died or he killed himself because he was a bad son, the mom ties into the situation because she cares about him and is worried that he is taking the break up hard. She is just making sure that he is taking care of himself, and not forgeting to live, which he is. He thinks that if he can move far a way, then the problem is gone...
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I think the song has a two part meaning. He is actually recovering from drugs/alcohol. When someone first "sobers up" you have some of the worst thoughts that one can imagine in early recovery. You basically can't stop thinking about all of the stupid crap you've done to those you love the most, only now you don't have anyway to medicate yourself, so it's a living hell. I think he's reflecting on the love his mother gave him and perhaps an ex girlfriend as well during this period in his life.
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Ok so there are tons of interpretations for this song. Most people I've heard are talking about a break-up with his girlfriend, but if you actually watch the video and listen to the first part of the song you hear that he is listening to a phone message from his mother. I believe he is talking about all the things he's done wrong and how his mother has helped him with it. Yet he never helped her in return. Then in the end one of them dies and he is telling her to hate him because he doesn't want to cause her anymore pain than he already has.
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